Its always been I who is being tested for patience,loyalty and trusting and trying to adjust with his unpredictable time schedule. I've learned that when I need attention, it's best to ask for it rather than wasting time acting sad or frustrated. For every lesson and sermon preached about loving everyone, there are one or two lessons on avoiding outsiders because they will destroy your eternity. Yup, know how that feels. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints teaches that all sexual relationships outside of marriage defined as the legal union between a man and a woman are sinful. But daughter and I agreed that this teaching was unhealthy. It's the sort of super dismissive "all women are the same" attitude that I learned in church and left to get away from. He probably hates even the memory of me for getting him in that stupid church.
By all means, I encourage you to try having those discussions and to make a mental note of when you would choose to walk away instead. If she doesn't care that you aren't a member now, if your relationship goes on long enough, she is going to care eventually. He was also a poor communicator and felt he didn't need to voice certain things, like 'I love you'. Even Mormon girls who marry non-Mormons want great dads for their kids, and they are oriented to having kids, sometimes many kids. Better than freezing up and avoiding them altogether. A lot of advice I get from others is that you need to build up hobbies and activities of your own so that I am not just waiting for him to give attention and have time for me. My husband's simply daily things, like grocery shopping, cooking, waking up with me to make coffee in the morning-are far from unnoticed. All around me, I am being asked if I am ready to be a doctor's wife, and do I know what is expected of me. No one knows your situation the way you do. They even refrain from tea and coffee.
You've stated that she had numerous guys break up with her after she took sex off the table. As someone born and raised in the church this has been very difficult to moderate and there is some social pressure to become more involved. Plus there's a lot of things we didn't get taught growing up that are slowly coming out through the Internet. Mixed races, however, are NOT tied into opposing beliefs and mixed races don't try to "convert" each other. Please start another thread and continue the conversation. My husband started a solo practice and the last few years have been very difficult on our marriage- financially as well as personally. December 18, Please tell me you're not in NC, dagny. We got married two years ago. I know a non-Mormon guy who married a Mormon woman and has kept her beautiful and desirable, by encouraging her religious involvement, even though he avoided Mormonism himself. A more unfortunate soul needs him right now as much as I need him.
For example, the irish, polish and the italians basically intermarried. She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her. At that point, I would have gotten half of everything we own. If all the Mormons truly were the pricks we often claim them to be, then Mormonism would be the perfect punishment for them. Take the time he actually can give you, and appreciate it. I am a non Mormon. The intrusion into my life of an apparently irrational belief that was immune to my influence would have been felt more keenly every year. I would need to ask my husband again.